Jo Jo & Jade
The Locked & Loved Guide
It's the delivery, not the kink.
You don't chase butterflies. You build the garden and they come to you. We're a married couple who live this, and we write about becoming the kind of man a woman feels safe opening up with.
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Why we're here
Most guys hide this side of themselves for years. We did too.
Hiding it wears you down, and it usually comes out anyway at the worst time. Saying it out loud to the right person, in the right way, is a relief you feel in your whole body.
And once that weight is off, everything else gets better. How you carry yourself, how she looks at you, how the two of you talk. That's the part that changes your life.
You don't need a partner yet to start. A lot of this is about who you are before she ever shows up.
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We wrote this for two kinds of men.
- You have a partner and you don't know how to bring this up. Or you tried once, it landed wrong, and you've been quiet about it ever since.
- You don't have a partner yet and you want one you can actually be yourself with, instead of hiding half of who you are again.
Here's a few good places to start.
The Hiding Is the Problem
Accepting this part of yourself first, so you're not carrying it like a secret. This is where everybody should begin.
Read it In the libraryHow she actually thinks
Women feel attraction different than we do. Once you get that, you stop scaring her off and she starts leaning in.
Read it In the libraryAttracting a good partner
Being a safe, steady, fun man is rare right now. That's the garden, and it's what brings the right woman to you.
Read itWant to see the two of us? Our home is Cock & Cake.